Wondering what to do for a couple who had to postpone or cancel their wedding for COVID-19? Because none of us have ever dealt with this before, it can be hard to know what to say or do for a couple who had to postpone the most important day of their lives. Whether you are the maid of honor, the sister of the groom, the wedding photographer, or a friend from high school who hasn’t talked to the couple in a few years, there are several ways you can help show you care and that you are thinking of the couple as they go through this stressful time.
One of our favorite ways to show we care at Greetabl is to combine the thoughtfulness of a personalized message with a small gift (ehem, ehem – that’s kinda what we do!). In this post, we’re outlining our favorite gift suggestions for postponed weddings, as well as some tips on what to say to a couple who had to postpone, what not to say, and a few other ways to go the extra mile.
Gifts for Postponed Weddings
Team Greetabl is here bringing you our favorite gift ideas to say “just thinking of you” on a bride or groom’s original wedding date.
Greetabl Design Suggestions for Postponed Weddings:
Greetabl has a wide selection of designs that are perfect for wedding gifts. Here are a few of our favorite suggestions for couples who have had to postpone or cancel their celebration:
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Postponed Wedding Greetabl Gift Ideas:
Sending a small gift to the couple is a thoughtful way to let them know you are thinking about them. We think that something small and personal is the perfect fit for postponed weddings. A gift that can either make their original wedding date a little more festive and special or that can help encourage them as the re-plan all those little details for their new day will go a long way to cheering them up. Our team has curated a selection of our favorite gifts for brides or grooms who have had to postpone their big day:
1. Relaxation Soy Candle: Send the gift of relaxation to the couple to help relieve the stress of wedding planning (all over again!). The Relaxation Soy Candle is scented with an herbal blend of soothing lavender, sweet chamomile, sun-drenched sandalwood. AKA, it smells like seven ounces of spa day bliss!
2. Brass Photo Frame: Perfect for wedding photographers to send to their clients, the couple can use the Brass Photo Frame to display one of their beautiful engagement photos until they can finally replace it with a photo from the wedding.
3. Champagne Bubbles: The couple may not be able to do a champagne toast with all their family and friends right now, but that doesn’t mean they can’t share a little bubbly. 🙂 Send the Champagne Bubbles candy as a fun twist on a wedding classic – and let them know you can’t wait for the real thing next year!
4. Set of Jewelry Bowls: The couple may have purchased some special pieces of jewelry for their wedding day and now they won’t be wearing it for awhile. Send the Set of Jewelry Bowls gift to give them a gorgeous place to store wedding day accessories until the big day arrives. They’re the perfect size for holding rings, bracelets and a necklace or two. This set includes two solid wood bowls in two different gorgeous shades of blue.
5. Dream Sleep Mask: Planning a wedding is stressful in the best of times; coping with rescheduling because of a pandemic definitely takes that stress to a whole new level. Help the bride or groom get a little better sleep with the Dream Sleep Mask. Forget counting sheep, this beautiful sleep mask is a lovely little lights-out companion that’s oh-so-easy on the eyes.
6. White Bridal Confetti: Help the couple decorate their home on their would-be-big-day with the White Bridal Confetti. This is a perfect gift whether the couple is doing a Zoom ceremony, a small at home elopement, or just staying in together on their original date. It will help make the original date feel a little more special.
7. DIY Balloon Party Garland: Want to help take their at-home decorations to the NEXT LEVEL? This DIY Balloon Party Garland comes with 25 different (full-sized!!) latex balloons, each with a tail and nose so you can tie them together. It’s the perfect party in a box for the times you can’t be there to celebrate in person. The couple can inflate the balloons, tie them together, and create their own balloon arch to help celebrate their love on the day they planned to get married. Bonus: this looks amazing as a Zoom background!
8. Lemon Stress Ball: Pandemics are stressful, weddings are stressful, and pandemic weddings are stressful x 1000. This (super cute!) mini stress ball comes on a keyring so it can always be right there when they need it! It’s printed with the words “When Life Gets Tough, Squeeze Me…” and it’s the perfect size to fit in a pocket or the palm of your hand.
9. Mini Essential Oil Roll On Set: This set of three mini essential oil roll-ons is the perfect on-the-go size to carry in a purse as the couple meets with new vendors and coordinates all the details of their new wedding date. All of the oils are therapeutic grade and are cold-pressed or steam distilled and ready to use. The set includes: Focus, Immune Boost, and Relax.
Looking for something specific? Our Customer Happiness team is happy to help select the perfect gift based on the couple’s interests and personalities. You can reach them on Live Chat on our website, or email [email protected] to get the conversation started. (Seriously, helping people pick gifts is sort of our all-time favorite thing – so don’t be afraid to reach out!).
What to Say to Someone Who Had to Postpone Their Wedding Because of COVID-19
Their wedding is postponed and you don’t know what to say? It’s hard to find the right words to encourage someone through something so unprecedented.
Even if you don’t know exactly what words to say, reach out to the couple! Just showing them support and that you are thinking of them will go a long way. Here are a few examples of messages you can send to help cheer them up.
Encouraging Messages for Postponed Weddings
- “I know this weekend didn’t turn out how you thought it would, but I know that it will still be an amazing day full of love! Can’t wait for the day we get to celebrate your love in person!”
- “Life is so unpredictable right now, but one thing is for sure and that’s your love for one another! I can’t wait to celebrate with you when it’s safer. Remember: your love conquers all!”
- “Thinking of you as you have to adjust your plans for your special day. Just know I’m here for you if you need any support, or even just a listening ear! Sending all my love and good wishes for a party of all parties when this is over.”
The bottom line: be sincere, acknowledge how difficult this is for the couple, and let them know you are excited to celebrate them when it’s safe to do so. Whether you’re sending some love to someone very close to you, like your sibling or best friend, or sending encouragement to someone a little more distant, you can’t go wrong with an authentic note to let them know you are thinking about them.
What Not to Say to Someone Who Postponed Their Wedding
Our Customer Happiness team has received a lot of questions about what to NOT say to a couple who has had to postpone their weddings. While we think that you’re best bet is to speak from the heart, we also curated a few of our top tips on things to avoid when you’re talking to someone who had to postpone their big day:
- Don’t minimize their experience: 2020 has been a tough year and there are many, many serious issues facing us as a global community. That doesn’t make your friend’s sadness about postponing their wedding any less real or less legitimate. Let your friend experience this grief in their own way and try not to say, “Well, at least it’s not this other thing.” Situations could always be worse – and your friend already knows that!
- Don’t offer advice (or worse, criticism!): This is a good rule of thumb for all tough times, but it’s especially true now; don’t offer advice if your friend doesn’t ask for it. It is unlikely that you have thought of a suggestion that hasn’t already crossed their mind, and, even if you have, this is probably not the time to share it. Your friend may want to vent or talk about how frustrating this situation is and what they need most from you is someone who will listen and empathize. Master these four words: “Wow, that’s really tough!”.
- Don’t tell them it’s going to be okay: Honestly, your friend is going to get through this and everything will be okay. But you don’t need to say that right now! They know that this won’t be the end of the world, but has a very real and significant impact on their life. Right now, your friend is dealing with losing deposits, sifting through vendor contracts, trying to lock in back up vendors for their new date, re-envisioning what the day is going to look like, and a whole of uncertainty. Right now your friend might not be okay, and that is okay.
- Don’t compare this situation to something you dealt with on your wedding day: No wedding goes off 100% perfectly without any hiccups, but postponing your wedding because of a global pandemic is NOT similar to your distant cousin interrupting the ceremony with his Baby Shark sing-along toy or your Great Aunt Maud giving an uninvited and ill-advised toast at the reception. Acknowledge that this is completely unprecedented (ugh – can you believe we’re still using that word!?) and that you don’t know what your friend is going through.
Other Ways to Cheer Up a Friend Who Postponed Their Wedding
There are so many ways you can help support a friend who has had to postpone their wedding. Sending a gift in the mail is one easy way, but there are many other things you can do to help put a smile on their face during this tough season. Here are a few of our favorite strategies to support a friend going through a wedding postponement:
- FaceTime calls
- Cheerful text messages
- A handwritten note
- Volunteer to take care of a stressful task
- Schedule a mini Zoom bachelor/bachelorette party
- Decorate their yard
- Purchase a celebrity shoutout on their original date
- Thoughtful voice memo
- Send a contactless delivery cake
- Call to check-in
There’s really no wrong way to support your friend. Think about their personality (you can use a tool like the enneagram or the Five Love Languages to help with this), and then do whatever feels like a good fit. Your friend will appreciate that you thought of them and went out of your way to show you care.
Looking for the right wat to encourage clients or employees who had to postpone their weddings? Greetabl can help you send unique gifts your clients will love with our concierge service. Click here to learn more about placing large orders.
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